a tight group from high school and our 20’s had a party. only about 20 folks went. i opted out because of the group. one’s a nurse, a few teachers, a lawyer and her boyfriend, an nfl member, among others. i myself work with children. one guy, a close buddy of the birthday boy, is a convict. he was just recently paroled and is now a registered sex offender. i was emailed photos from the ‘great party i missed’. most of these folks have children. one of his victims was his adopted sister. he was in many photos with the others posing for pics. i’m sickened. do these people not care? i don’t even hate the guy, we’re related, but i can’t hang out and party with him. is it me, or are folks really accepting these days? i don’t feel like i’ve overreacted.
actually he just got away andhe isn’t reformed. he’s not livingintheappointed motel.he’s sneaking to his mom’s each week. he’s not supposed to live there since she’s a foster parent. and i think i forgave him as soon as it happened. not only that, i’m the one that went to bat for him. i just find it odd that it’s all okay now. i talk with him everyday and support him. he’ll be sure to not get caught next time. believe me…i’ve cut him nothing but breaks. i just feel funny being his peer again.
i only called you latrine because you were very disrespectful with your bikini comment. as a matter of fact, you’ve been a little less than respectful in this comment as well.
i’ve supported him as a friend. not sure if he would commit again, but he jokes about it. yes, everyone knows about it. i was the one they came to for confirmation while he was incarcerated. he’s my daughters father. i’m not wanting to shun him. it’s just weird because many of these folks (and i know most of them well) have made comments about other perpetrators and situations. comments like. ‘they deserve death, i hope he frys and if i ever knew someone like that, i’d kill him’. but it’s seems okay when it’s a friend theirs.
ironically, he used to makesimilar comments. we knew of a child molestor and he said that was so sick and he’s kill anyone that tried anything with his kids. i wonder if he’s let it go if a friend did it. fact is, most molestations are family or family friends.
April 2, 2010 at 3:02 pm
Its called forgiveness, he had a bad rep so what, give the guy a break. He’s no longer in prison which means he’s reformed, so what more do you want?. He’s had to endure prison and torture and now that he’s out you want to make a hell for him on the outside too.
Ok in that sense, give it time, my mother told me time heals everything.lol
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Btw, Its Latrell and not Latrine, in case you forget again.
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You still don’t get it do you?, what I meant was put up an avatar with a bikini, and countless number of people will give your question hits. I didn’t mean you metaphorically. you clearly misunderstood my approach last time, and you were quick to name call before you could understand what I was saying.
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April 2, 2010 at 3:45 pm
I guess you need to ask whether these folks with children are at all aware that this guy is on the sex offender’s register. Maybe they don’t know. It is a matter for them to decide about whether they associate with him or not. If he is breaking his conditions of parole he could be in big trouble. He needs to get serious about understanding his offence and make sure he is having ongoing counselling etc. And you need to make sure you are not colluding in his behaviour in any way. Sexual abuse is abuse. It is never OK.
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April 2, 2010 at 4:11 pm
I agree with the other answer, did they know he is a registered sex offender? Other than that, Im not sure what advice to give. You sound a little torn. Upset they allowed a sex offender to their party but on other hand your talking to and supporting this guy. Im not sure how to help with that matter. I have known sex offenders in my day. My grandpa was one of them. Once I found out what he did to my mom, I disliked him til he died. Also, only the vitcims have the right to forgive him of that act. His wrong-doing was against them not you. Sorry if I sounded rude, just my honest opinion. My only concern is, do you think he would do it again now that he’s free? If so, support is the last thing this guy needs.
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