I made a friend through a girl my boyfriend was seeing while we were on a break. She is still friends with this girl, and my boyfriend and I are back together. Naturally neither this girl or myself want to be around eachother. It was our mutual friends birthday and I found out the girl was going. I also had family in town so I opted out of attending the birthday and told my friend I would take her out separately to celebrate. She is now ignoring me and not answering my emails, calls, texts. Am I in the wrong because I don’t want to be around her friend, or is she because she can’t understand where I’m coming from?
April 2, 2010 at 4:13 pm
You handled that extremely maturely.
You are not in the wrong. You didn’t go to that girl’s birthday party to keep the drama down. You didn’t want to be there with your boyfriend’s ex and your friend should realize that. You tried to make things up to her by sayin’ you’d take her out by herself and celebrate – what more does she want?
Don’t feel bad about the decision you made – you are not in the wrong and I think you handled the situation better than a lot of people would.
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April 2, 2010 at 4:24 pm
I think your friend is wronq.
Family is much more important.
Maybe you should of qone but only if family wasn’t in town.
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April 2, 2010 at 4:38 pm
You most definitely didn’t do anything wrong.
It’s your personal preference whether you want to attend a party or not, and she really shouldn’t be offended, especially if you explained and are going to take her out to celebrate.
I’m sorry, but if she’s that immature I’d just ignore her back until she comes to her senses. I don’t think you did anything wrong, and to be honest, if she really wanted you to go even though she knew you’d be uncomfortable, she isn’t that great of a friend in the first place.
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April 2, 2010 at 5:36 pm
I personally don’t think you are in the wrong. if you explained to your friend that you and this other girl don’t get along, than there shouldn’t be a problem. She can’t get mad at you becasue you had a good reason not to come to her party. You even offered to take her out separately! I think she is over reacting and is not respecting you. Ignoring you is not only immature and rude, but it doesn’t solve anything. Communication is the best card you have to play. Hope I helped
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